Alter threshold of Your Happiness and Sadness
Be careful at Social media while interacting:
This is the era of tremendous advancements at a faster pace and easy connectivity of people living around the world. It seems as if we are living in a global village. You have innumerous tools for instantly connecting with people related to you one or the other way. You have social media sites including Face book, Twitter, LinkedIn, Whatsapp, Skype, Viber and many more tools to connect with one another.
With increased and easy connectivity people at large remain connected with one anther most of the time and consistently pour out all their thoughts and inner feelings including that of love, hatred, anger and disagreement etc. towards one another.
Avoid criticism and making mockery of others:
This outburst of feelings has both types of effects. In case you are sending positive signals in form of love, goodwill, care, greetings, welfare etc, it leads to healthy and loving relationship among inmates. On the contrary, people who send thoughts of anger, hatred, confrontation, abusing, criticism, finding faults in others, this negative attitude results in a war of words. This in turn leads to strained relationship among friends, relatives, customers and colleagues etc. And cause of worry is that there are many more incidences of confrontation as compared to that of love and understanding. Negative attitude prevails all over. And basic cause of this attitude is mostly due habit of intolerance, ego, pride including superiority and inferiority complexes.
Recently I heard an echo of similar incidence of confrontation among a small group of people of our family; they are very close and dear to me. They love and respect one another very much!!! But such incidences lead to strained relations. And such incidences happen almost everywhere in this world. And gradually we are becoming more and more hostile towards one another.
Give a thought before expressing your feelings:
Is not it most appropriate time to give a proper thought to curb this ever increasing menace?
At the outset, every one of us needs to introspect and keep a careful watch on our thought pattern. There is general perception such problems are due to attitude of people. And to maintain loving relationships, we need to change our attitude.
Do you feel bad very easily and happy with difficulty?
However, it is my perception that our threshold for feelings of good and bad are placed wrongly. People at large have a tendency to develop bad feelings very easily while good feelings are generated with greatly difficulty and are exhibited seldom. And because of this tendency, we get annoyed with one another easily and sometimes without any provocation or genuine reason. Our inner feelings of anger, hatred, jealousy, ego, pride and selfish behavior overpower us so quickly and we are carried away with such feelings. These negative feelings are gathered over the years and are predominantly displayed in our behavior and various other activities.
On the contrary, feelings of happiness, love, affection, selflessness, caring, sharing, forbearance, forgiveness and gratitude take back seat and are displayed in our behavior rarely or with great difficulty. As a result, we seldom feel good in our various activities.
To find easy solution to problem pertaining to strained relationships, bad temper and ill will, you must learn to change threshold for good and bad situations in your life. You need to change definitions of your feelings of being happy and sad.
Change your definitions:
Make your definition such that it is very easy to be happy and extremely difficult to be sad. Decide that your good day is today because you are alive and are breathing easily. Stick to this definition and learn to keep you filled with feelings of happiness, contentment, enthusiasm, optimism and positivism very easily and effortlessly.
If anyone asks you a question, why are you so happy and enthusiastic? Your answer should be, “I am happy because I am alive today and breathing easily and happily on this planet.”
This attitude will help you living happily and you will always remain full of love and affection; caring and sharing; cooperation and understanding; forgiveness and gratitude and health and wealth.
Besides being happy easily and conveniently at the same time you must also resolve to be sad with great difficulties. It should be rather impossible for any person to make you sad. Decide a condition of your sadness and annoyance. You must agree to a condition that you will be sad only when you have lost more than $ one million in a day or if there is most unfortunate incidence happened in your life. These conditions of sadness will make it very difficult for you to be sad or down. And almost all the time you will remain happy and content.
Apply these conditions now:
All your efforts must be directed towards bringing these positive changes in your life. To develop this habit you will have to make sincere, honest, dedicated and consistent efforts. Every now and then, you must remind you of these new set of definitions. Write these conditions on papers and place them at different places including bedroom, dining room, kitchen, prayer room, washroom, cupboards, study table, work area, dash board of your car or any other place where it is visible to you several times a day. You can also make a wall paper of your computer, laptop and cell phone. Quite often repeat these conditions in your mind and resolve to stick to the same.
Within few days your habits will change and you will observe that you are one the happiest persons living on this earth. You will always remain happy, content and optimistic person. You will also learn to make others happy with your attitude.
And there is no annoyance, unhappiness, anger, hatred, confrontation or ill wills in this world.
Love and happiness prevails everywhere.
Quotes for Thoughts
“I love those who can smile in trouble…” ~ Leonardo da Vinci
“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi
“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.” ~ Abraham Lincoln
“Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” ~ Winston Churchill
Everyone thinks of changing the world, But no one thinks of changing himself. ~ Leo Tolstoy
“A man is happy so long as he chooses to be happy.” ~ Alexander Solzhenitsyn
“The greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances.” ~ Martha Washinton
“If you don’t think every day is a good day, just try missing one.” ~ Cavett Robert
“We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.” ~ Charles R. Swindoll
“Were you born this infuriating?”
“It’s taken me years of practice.” ~ Misty Massey
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you. ~ Author unknown.
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